FOR VIRGINS ONLY

As a widower and father of four young daughters checking out this site was a pure co-incidence. More so, out of curiosity or in the hope of finding something useful to pass on to others. But I am glad that I found it and could share something about it as I feel it is much needed and others should be encouraged to join it.

A new entrant to the already crowded online dating landscape, this site which proclaims itself as "the friendly place for virgins to meet" promises to keep things pure – and maybe even simple.Exclusively for virgins, YouAndMeArePure.com boasts itself as the place for virgins to connect.

Created by husband and wife, Lety and Jose Colin, YouAndMeArePure states its intent as a tool for singles who value purity when searching for a relationship, but there's a strict "virgins only" policy. "Any visitor to our website who is not a virgin but is intimately abstaining, consider joining www.youandiabstain.com. All other non-virgin visitors are welcome to invite their close virgin friends and/or relatives to join our site." Yeah, these guys mean business. Memberships are free, and the site promises that only other members will have access to your profile, though the authenticity of users could be a mystery – the Colins' sternly worded "V's only!" warnings aside.

The online dating site for virgins

If you enter the site you are greeted by "YouAndMeArePure is not a sentence just in case you are checking for grammar. It is rather the name of our website. The name was carefully crafted from the beginning to express that we value both, people entering in relationships and virginity. We are very pleased to have you here. You mean a lot to us."

"A virgin person like anybody else is special because of his/her personal attributes, but the virgin person enjoys of an extra attribute no less beautiful called virginity."

The Colins describes a virgin as a person who "iwho has not experienced sexual intercourse or the physical and emotional feelings associated with it and whose first sexual intercourse if it ever takes place serves as the limit to his/her innate sexual innocence, with the intercourse ranging from merely being a sexual act with long lasting impressions, to one where the innate sexual innocence is shared as the most profound expression of love in the physical form, like no other subsequent sexual acts that already lack the innate sexual innocence."

"The aim of our website is to use virginity as a significant compatibility tool to bring people together. Some people may overlook the bonding power of virginity. Virginity as an important common aspect between people can lead to close friendships,or can even serve as a mutual precious gift of marriage. This bonding power is something that cannot be purchased with all the money in the world" they added.

According to the Colins, "we were both virgins ourselves when we met and remained virgins until the day we got married. The year of our marriage was 1993. Our ages then were 28 (wife) and 34 (husband). We are still happily married despite that we entered marriage intimately inexperienced. But like everything in life it takes learning and we have been having each other to accomplish that. Looking back in retrospective during our marriage, we can attest that we have grown more intimately and are becoming more talented in that area. We do not regret for a moment having entered marriage, with both of us being virgins. On the contrary, we see virginity as a major blessing that has given us the opportunity to appreciate one another even more."

"Virginity, in the whole sense of the word, played a big role for us since before deciding our marriage. By the “whole sense of the word” we mean that besides the physical part of it, there are also the personal and the spiritual bonding areas associated with virginity. In our case, before we met each other, we were open to the possibility of finding the right person who would really appreciate our virginity not sure that we were going to find that person. Eventually, we did. We were fortunate to find that person in each other. Our appreciation for each other’s virginity and for each other as a whole lead us into a materialized life commitment. Up to this day, we still do appreciate having mutually shared great personal and spiritual times prior to our marriage, including the time, of course, when we “exchanged” our vows and our virginities. We believe that these awesome times definitely set the foundation for the success of our marriage. With regards to life commitment, this one does require a lot of work on our behalf to keep it alive. But it is worth working for it no matter what it takes when you consider someone special for life."

They added, "In the area of personal compatibility we feel that long lasting relationships are the ones based on a few important compatible aspects rather than on many less significant ones. If you as a virgin person feel that virginity is one of those major important aspects of compatibility, then you came to the right place."

The site also features a small online store where users can purchase physical V-cards as "proof" of their purity. The "card-carrying virgin" idea may be a novelty, but YouAndMeArePure cites it will stick true to its "pure until marriage" ethos. "Some people may overlook the bonding power of virginity. Virginity as an important common aspect between people can lead to close friendships,or can even serve as a mutual precious gift of marriage. This bonding power is something that cannot be purchased with all the money in the world."