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Sunday, January 09, 2011

THE PICKLE JAR

As far back as I can remember, the pickle jar sat on the floor beside the dresser in my parents’ bedroom. When he got ready for bed, Dad would empty his pockets and toss his coins into the jar. As a small boy I was always fascinated at the sounds the coins made as they were dropped into the jar. They landed with a merry jingle when the jar was almost empty. Then the tones gradually muted to a dull thud as the jar filled. I used to squat on the floor in front of the jar and admire the copper and silver circles that glinted like a pirate’s
treasure when the sunlight streamed through the bedroom window.


When the jar was full, Dad would sit at the kitchen table and roll the coins into paper holders. Taking the coins to the bank was always a big production. Stacked neatly in a small cardboard box, the coins rode between Dad and me on the seat of his old truck. Each and every time, as we drove to the bank, Dad would look at me hopefully. “Those coins are going to keep you out of the textile mill, son. You’re going to do better than me. This old mill town’s not going to hold you back.” As he slid the box of rolled coins across the counter toward the teller, he would grin proudly. “These are for my son’s college fund. He won’t have to work at the mill all his life like me.”


We would celebrate each deposit by stopping for an ice cream cone. I always got chocolate. Dad always got vanilla. When the clerk at the ice cream parlor handed Dad his change, he would show me the few coins nestled in his palm.


“When we get home, we’ll start filling the jar again.”


He always let me drop the first coins into the empty jar. As they rattled around with a brief, happy jingle, we grinned at each other.


“You’ll get to college on pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters,” he said. “But you’ll get there. I’ll see to that.”


The years passed, and I finished college and took a job in another town. Once, while visiting my parents, I used the phone in their bedroom and noticed that the pickle jar was gone. It had served its purpose and had been removed.



A lump rose in my throat as I stared at the spot beside the dresser where the jar had always stood.

My dad was a man of few words, and never lectured me on the values of determination, perseverance, and faith. The pickle jar had taught me all these virtues far more eloquently than the most flowery of words could have done. When I married, I told my wife Susan about the significant part the lowly pickle jar had played in my life as a boy. In my mind it defined, more than anything else, how much my dad had loved me. No matter how rough things got at home, Dad continued to doggedly drop his coins into the jar. Even the summer when
he got laid off from the mill, and Mama had to serve beans several times a week, not a single dime was taken from the jar. On the contrary, as Dad looked across the table at me, he became more determined than ever to make a way out for me.


“When you finish college, son,” he told me, his eyes glistening, “You’ll never have to eat beans again … unless you want to.”


The first Christmas after our daughter Jessica was born, we spent the holiday with my parents. After dinner, Mom and Dad sat next to each other on the sofa, taking turns cuddling their first grandchild. Jessica began to whimper, and Susan took her from Dad’s arms.


“She probably needs to be changed,” she said, carrying the baby into my parents’ bedroom to diaper her.


When Susan came back into the living room, there was a strange mist in her eyes. She handed Jessica back to Dad before taking my hand and leading me into the room.


“Look,” she said softly, her eyes directing me to a spot on the floor beside the dresser. To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed, stood the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins. I walked over to the pickle jar, dug down into my pocket, and pulled out a fistful of coins.


Choked with emotion, I dropped the coins into the jar. I looked up and saw that Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our eyes locked, and I knew he was feeling the same emotions I felt. Neither one of us could speak but our hearts understood.


Sometimes we are so busy adding up our troubles that we forget to count our blessings. 

Sorrow looks back. 
Worry looks around. 
Faith looks up!

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